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well i think misinformation does do things to ppl. when assumptions are made without having every single detail of the story, and when sides are taken even before the entire situation is fully comprehended by the outsiders. that in itself is a pretty silly thing to do, esp when onli one side of the story is told.

i might be going a bit tok here, but it is the problem of perspectives. sure, biasness comes into play more often than not. this can be observed most obviously when friends are involved, or any loved ones for that matter. granted that there is a possibility of your friend being the one in the wrong, but if sides have to be taken you cant possibly have an objective view about the entire situation can you?

emotions run high everytime an attempt at a deeper and more intimate relationship fails, and camps are usually formed at the end of the whole saga. more often than not, this clouds our view and causes us to make irrational and misinformed decisions (which usually ends up as a pretty bad decision). but i think nobody else except the parties involved are in positions to comment, or to judge for that matter.

sure advice can be given, i do that a lot myself. but when it comes to personal attacks and degradation of the other party, it pretty much crosses a line that should have never been. simply put, if you dun know the other person as well as you know the one you are advising, dun attempt to pretend as if you understand where he’s coming from or try to second guess him. nobody is that predictable.

(if they were, there wouldnt be a need for me to study so hard now)

which probably brings me back to my title. yeah yeah, i’m a stupid and immature kid that doesnt know how to move on in life, or deal with the emotional trauma that failures bring. but can you say you really understand how i feel, what i went through, what i had to deal with and what i’m dealing with now? sure i’ve made impulsive decisions when faced with huge emotional pressure, i acknowledge that. but please tell me which one you hasnt ever done that in your life so i can ask you for your autograph.

dun judge me if you want me to be able to call you my brother or sister. some things cannot be simplified, so please dun try. maybe i’m being slightly condescending now, but i’m pretty serious when it comes to betrayal of trust and misplaced judgments. my friends never betray me or lie to me because they know the consequences. surely you would know abt what happens to them if they did, and that’s why you’re taking sides now, no? (;

i dun need to explain myself to anyone. no need for justification. no need for explanations. there’s hardly any need for guilt tripping cos everyone only bothers to make the more "vulnerable" party feel better. i’ve always said age doesnt determine maturity, but neither does it allow one to play judge.

if you’ve read through all this you’ll probably be asking yourself "why on earth did i bother to?", but i guess that’s because you know i’m talking to you. you know who you are. you know what you did. and you know i’m making some sense here.

peace out.